With only one cycle after our November miscarriage, we are pregnant again! We are (obviously) ecstatic. Scott has been specifically desiring a hundred more children especially since his hospital experience, and I’d happily accept that many more, so we’ve been quite hopeful for a while now. Life is short. Children are a blessing. I love being pregnant. Life is a true miracle, indescribable by anything but God’s awesomeness.
Because of our recent miscarriage, some advised us to keep our news on the down low until the risk of another miscarriage has passed, closer to 12 weeks gestation. Well, we’re not good at secrets, and would assume error on the side of too much exposing more often than not. Y’all have prayed us through our loss, and have prayed for us to be so blessed to become pregnant again, so of course we’d share. No matter if it all goes jolly or tough.
The first one to find out was a girlfriend that had meticulously followed my cycles with me as I had never previously charted (etc) until last fall. If this is too much intimate detail for you, well, you better duck out of my blog completely. It was as close to “fertility treatment” that I felt comfortable with persuing (for now anyway). I had set up an app on my iThing thanks to her suggestion, but didn’t really need it. She reminded me and asked me if we were on the ball *nudge* when the timing was ripe (apparently my cycle was on her iThing, too). She’s a hoot. Frankly, it was awesome to have her. I sent her the first faint second line I got, a wee unsure, but a lot more sure than I was last time.
The line has just kept getting darker. Why yes, of course I have tested more than once. What else am I going to do with a cupboard full of cheap sticks?!
We wanted to have a little fun sharing the news (remember last time we sent the kids on a scavenger hunt that led to a wee drawing on my belly). This time we shared like this:
this was addressed to daddy.
Telling the kids: During an evening movie, Scott made popcorn in the kitchen. We used paper bowls and filled one extra, each with someone’s name on the underside. Colby handed them out one by one, enjoying the fun of having to give specific bowls to specific family members (we usually just share barbarian style out of a single bowl… wait… do barbarians use bowls?!), then was stumped on the last. The one with an under score and question mark. Kendra’s eyes got brighter. Adyn belly laughed with excitement. Colby just didn’t get it. Until that moment
I can’t take credit for this card. I found it online. This one went to 2 of our classy-humored loves.
For one group of friends in particular, we sent a “Private Invite Only: TONIGHT” message out. We promised ice cream and games. Almost everyone rsvp’d yes quite quickly. I mean, who can resist ICE CREAM!? We started the evening out with a game of Fish Bowl, a new favorite that cousins had taught us over Christmastime vacation. If you haven’t played it, you really should. It’s great in a group, and great for your brain. I’ll go into detail how to play here. Skip past if you already know.
How To Play Fish Bowl: Everyone takes a couple of pieces of paper and writes something – anything – on it, and tosses it into a collective bowl. Once everyone has put theirs in the bowl, two teams are formed (every other person), and someone starts by trying to get their team to guess the words on a single paper from the bowl by only using words (no gestures), so long as they are NOT the words on the paper. They have 45 seconds to get as many correct answers from their teammates as possible. At the end of their time, they count up their score (scorekeeper marks it down), and move the bowl to the left. And so on, until there are no paper slips left. Then, all of the papers go back into the bowl, are mixed up, and the play starts off where it ended. The Second Round is that you can ONLY use gestures (NO words) to get your teammates to guess as many papers as possible, now with a time of 60 seconds. The Third Round, once all papers have been guessed, scores have been recorded, and all have been mixed back into the bowl, is a hard round: the one sharing clues can only give ONE WORD to get their teammate to guess what’s on the paper/s for a total of 45 seconds per player turn. No gestures. No other words. No props. It sounds impossible, but by now there are usually some quirky things about each paper that people have put memories to. You’ll be surprised.
As you can guess, we snuck a paper in that said “we’re expecting”. The first round was fast and furious, and people were stressed to get answers from their teammates. There were many random & silly things written down. So ours came and went with no real “ah ha”. When the game went into the Second Round, Scott slipped another in that said: “Summers pregnant,” hoping to catch someone a little better. Remember, this is the round that people can only act/gesture, no using words. It was rather amusing. And really fun to give someone else the chance to share the good news all the while being surprised and excited to hear it themselves for the first time. We all laughed and went on to enjoy the rest of the evening of deliciousness and play.
And lastly (other than the fun phone calls and video chatting, dinner with close friends, etc), Kendra has learned how to do wood/lino carving for block printing in her art class, and so we sketched out and chiseled this fine looking acorn and printed cards with it to send to loved ones to share our announcement, also making a digital copy for sharing online. We bought fabric paint to make this babes blanket with an acorn pattern from the block print as well.
This picture below was taken over Christmastime and is only a small portion of our family. All a bit nutty, but some of the best people I know. I’m so thankful to call them mine! I’m thankful, too, for my God-fearing heritage, and pray regularly for these and future generations to continue the legacy and multiply in this area.
All silly aside, we have never really “tried” to become pregnant before. This last 21 months – with a recent miscarriage – has been … I don’t want to say discouraging (it’d be teetering on lying). But definitely has allowed us the opportunity to rest (dwell) more fully in giving our lives to God, once again, and to truly live in contentedness and peace – and thankfulness! – for the life we have, and the children we are so blessed with. We have prayed often that we have more babies. We have others close to us praying the same. But more than praying for a baby, we all have prayed it be God’s will, if we are so blessed.
We prayed for this child and He granted us our request. 1 Sam. 1:27
This will be our second rainbow baby. What a fitting term for a life after a loss. What a beautiful reminder of God’s goodness and graciousness. His faithfulness and mercy.